I know I´m not alone when I say that feeling whole as a single person can be a struggle. Some of us have felt the need for connection with another person, preferably someone “special” in order to feel whole.
One might get met with the comment “you were born alone and will die alone, so you should feel whole as you are whole already”. But for those of us born a twin or even triplet, this statement falls through. We have always had someone by our side to reflect our every move back at us.
But regardless, now you are here, not feeling whole. For me, it has been like having a hole in my chest and needing to fill it through authentic, deep connections.
How does it feel for you?
Practical exercise to feel whole
I was forced to step into my Higher Self to get through a highly challenging breakup situation. Meaning, I was forced to give myself the connection, self love and compassion I originally wanted to receive from someone else. I filled my “hole” with love towards myself. It made me feel better overall, gave me a better posture, allowed me to make healthier decisions for myself which also gave me a bit more clarity.
Whenever I felt either triggered, wanting to chase a new romantic connection, or felt the hole not completely closed, I stopped for a moment, and gave myself a few slow breaths. I worked on connecting with the feeling of self love and compassion again. And I allowed myself the time it took to get into the energy. And visualized how self love was filling the hole.
Here is a step by step guide to doing the same
- Connect to the emotion of self love, compassion, connection, trust or whatever emotion you want to invite in. Take some time so that you are deeply in that emotion for a moment.
- Ask the emotion to fill your imagined “hole” within. It might take some time for the “hole” to be open for filling, so to speak. Invite co-operation if needed. It might also help to ask the hole what it needs. Sometimes the answer(s) can surprise you!
- If it tells you it wants happiness, boost your own happiness before you use the happiness to fill the hole!
- Allow yourself to really feel into the emotion as it might feel new to you. (Remember, you have become used to having a hole there!) The more you get to know it, the more familiar it becomes and the more you can expect the hole to be filled up on a regular basis.
- In come cases, you might feel that the hole still opens up. I invite you to ask it for guidance if this is the case for you. You might have to ask it several times to get to the root. And once you get some answers, use this again to feel into the emotion, and fill the hole.
A few affirmations
I am able to feel whole by myself.
I am whole.
I am worthy of feeling whole.
I am stepping into my own power.
Through stepping into my own power, I am whole.
I am already whole, just as I am.
I love myself.
I love myself just as I am, right here and now.
My life journey is happening for me.
Through filling my hole, I feel more and more whole.
I hope this was helpful!
